Feelings

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I'm not sure I fully understand what he means here. The first quote makes a lot of sense to me. That was one of those wonderful things that my husband and I discovered in our relationship - that our feelings aren't right or wrong, they are what we feel. So trying to get the other to deny what it is they feel in favor of what it is you feel is delusional.

It seems silly to place a moral judgment on feelings - good or bad/right or wrong. But does Watts mean that our inner feelings are never wrong, as in always being right? Or does he mean our feelings are our feelings and therefore are not wrong. Does that question even make sense? I'm not sure how to ask it.

If we deny our feelings (abandon them?), then clearly we have become disconnected and delusional. But at the same time, we aren't our feelings, are we?




We don't condemn flowers for growing in a certain way, and we shouldn't be ashamed of what we feel. Watts would say that both are natural processes that when allowed to work unhindered are part of the glorious and universal process of the universe. He's against any attempt to suppress or control our feelings.

That said, he's not saying that our feelings are right as in they always suggest the right action. Not at all. But just because you are not right in acting upon anger does not mean that you are not right to be angry. He says that by trying to control our more shameful feelings, we end up lashing out more, and causing more harm than if we were just honest.

To me it sparks of the whole Buddhist "hold, and let go" thing. Allowing your feelings to be really felt so that they may pass through you instead of fighting them eternally and having the wound grow and fester until something horrible happens.

As to the second question, I think it's important to realize what he is doing here. He's taking the mystic's point of view and applying it to morality. To do that he is necessarily losing some of the complexity of the mystic's position. And so if everything is harmonious and perfect when looked at as a whole, what stems naturally from us must also be harmonious. It is better to go with it rather than to fight it.
Ok - that makes more sense to me now. I think you are right. The Buddhist perspective is definitely not about controlling feelings. That's one of the benefits of meditation. All of that suppressed stuff that we have tried to control for whatever reason slowly starts bubbling up into our awareness during meditation sessions. That's better than allowing it to affect our actions unaware or festering. But it's still not a lot of fun. (It can be downright shocking sometimes!)

It does seem that our emotions only become problematic when we try to control them.

I'm still a little lost as to what you mean by applying the mystic's point of view to morality. But perhaps it is somewhat similar to what David Lynch does with his films. They are so incredibly warped and dark but that is simply because he's exploring the suppressed side of human emotion in a non-judgmental way that still fits in to the wonder and beauty of "the whole".

I've seen this Watts book at our Half Price Bookstore and have thought about picking it up forever Since it is short, I'll definitely grab it next time I'm there. It's been a long while since I've read anything by him.
Yeah I bought it because it's short too. It's quite a quick read. And man, his way of explaining things is just so easy to understand. I love him. :)

I think you pretty much got it w/ the Lynch thing. It's about being non-judgmental. It will probably make a lot more sense if you read the chapter. :)
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I agree with this although perhaps a better wording would be something like all feelings should be acknowledged as existing without attempting to suppress them.
Yep. I explained it practically to a friend of mine like this: Instead of acting and then afterwards realizing that your emotions were directing your rash actions...you consent to feel the emotion wholly without repressing it first, and then act. Hopefully it will lead to a much healthier way of functioning.
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One benefit of meditation in Buddhism is that we become a sort of third party to our emotions rather than being controlled by them (subconsciously or consciously). Rather than have a knee jerk reaction to what it is we are feeling, we can step back and observe what it is we are feeling with compassion. This produces action with greater awareness. The contemplative dimension of Catholicism produces the same effect. (Richard Rohr calls it Contemplative Action.)

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